Life in 4 Sentences

I’ve posted this excerpt from the book, Stupid is Forevermore by Miriam Defensor Santiago in all my social media accounts and I still can’t get over its meaning – it sums up what life is.

1. The Adventure of Life is to Learn
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After school,  you thought you were done with learning. Never did I thought that it will be that one thing that will fuel me to be motivated and keep the fire burning. It’s when you know that everyday, you will be learning something new that will keep you interested in life.

It’s when you know that life can never be summed up with the money that you have and the luxury that you are getting. That life, in order to be fun, you have to discover something new and you have to continuously learn from it.

2. The Nature of Life is to Change
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Getting through change  is a challenge but then, once you get comfortable being uncomfortable, it’ll be like swaying in the wind where you’d just go with the flow. Changing ones routine can be very difficult at first but it’s life’s nature. We just need to deal with it.

3. The Purpose of Life is to Grow
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They say, when you have your feet on the ground despite what you have accomplished, it’s when you know that you are growing.

When you have anchored your values no matter where you go, whoever you’d become, you know you are at the right track.

4. The Challenge of Life is to Overcome
From the start of the adventure, changes and growing up, those are the challenges that you have to overcome. just as what the poem “Don’t Quit” said, “Rest if you must but don’t you quit.”  

Who would have thought that life can be summed up in just 4 sentences? or even 4 words?
Powerful words we should never forget: Learn, Change, Grow and Overcome

Movie Suggestion: The Internship

During one of our meeting with our client, this movie just pop out of our conversation and though it wasn’t directly recommended, it got me interested – the movie, The Internship

My reflective thinking was nudged throughout the film and made me think about my previous teams, friends I gathered while working and people I’ve met along the way. Because of the nature of my work, at some point, I know I have met Billy (Vince Vaughn) and Nick (Owen Wilson) already in an industry compose of young, vibrant and competitive newbies and I have observed first hand the struggles of these old souls who want to join an industry of a new generation.

This movie is about working as a team which our new generation sometimes tend to forget at times, because they are so used to working in front of their computers thinking that personal interaction is less important. This movie is about change, facing fears, adversity, tenacity, persistence and resiliency.

Everyone of us must have faced that time when you were down and you just don’t know where would life bring you and because of the never-ending changes that you see around you, you tend to be scared and not take the leap of faith.

A movie about bringing up the best in every situation – in good times and in bad.

It’s about two undergrad ex-salesmen who dared to apply as an intern in one of the most sought after company in the United Sates – Google. These two men were old enough to be daddies compared with the other interns. They decided to enter this new world when their company was bankrupt and they badly needed a new job. Because of their courage to try something different, they got the chance to have an On the Job Training in the said company, surrounded by tech savvy newly grads.

As the challenges arise, their positive thinking and motivation separated them from the rest of the group and made me remember this line about attitude. “It is the attitude not the aptitude that really counts.”

As a trainer, if I’d be given the chance to recommend one movie to my class, this will be my best bet because for sure, the inner team player and leader will surely come out of my trainees and they’d be surely be motivated.

Choosing Happiness

I choose happinessHow many times have we heard this phrase, “happiness is a choice.” in every self-help books we read and every inspirational Youtube video you watch online. But how do you really choose happiness? And when do you NOT choose happiness?

You know you aren’t choosing happiness if you succumb to depression. If you say you don’t have enough, if you compare your life to others and you aren’t satisfied with what you have.

You know you are not choosing happiness if all you do is complain about how your life is going – you have no job, your work environment is not healthy, you don’t have enough money, your sister is much prettier, your brother achieved more than you do, your best friend has a new car and you describe your life as miserable.

You know you are not choosing happiness if you feel like you have not followed what you really want to do in your life.

You know you are not choosing happiness if you are single and you loathe yourself thinking you don’t deserve to be loved.

Happiness is a choice but how do you choose happiness given these circumstances that you have right now?

Before going to our “how” we must know the “why” first and this is what you should always think about if you started to feel unhappy.
So, first and foremost, answer this question, “Why do you want to be happy?”

My answer to that question is, “Who doesn’t?”

You may think you were choosing happiness but unfortunately, happiness does not want to be with you.
Well, try to look at yourself in another perspective and answer this question.

“Are you happy?”

If you have any hesitations while answering it, you are definitely not choosing happiness. For sure, you succumb yourself to your problems – at home, in school, at work, with your friends, with money matters, relationship and other aspect of your life.

So ask your self again, “Are you happy?” And reiterate that “Happiness is a choice.”

But, how do we choose happiness?

1. Smile… 🙂 though your heart is aching

Our body movements may indirectly affect our mood. It’s one of the tricks I have tried and tested several times and will always work. Smile in the midst of a problem and you’ll find your moral uplifted in an instant. Cry once in a while but when you are out, give your smile to the world.

2. Talk to Yourself

Of course, not in public. You don’t want your office mates/ friends to freak out.
Every morning, when you get up, talk to yourself and motivate yourself that this will be a great day. By the end of the day, let go of the things you have no control over with.

Motivation and Letting Go

Always see the bright side of every dark situation. As what they say, fake it ’till you make it – yes, it’s applicable to happiness too.
Treat every problem as an opportunity to shine.

3. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

This is one of the happiness killers in the world – envy and greed. You don’t need validation from anybody. They may have the things that you don’t have but they may also not have the things that you have. What they post online is not their true self. It’s the best that they can offer the world. Everybody has problems and no one is spared of any inconvenience and misfortunes. You are just not aware of it.

Our world comprises of endless problems yet, we need not to dwell on all of it. Stick with your guns and instead of complaining about how your life is going, start finding ways to solve it – one problem at a time.

4. Find Yourself

Know what you want and the desires of your heart. Focus on it. This may sound cliche but surely, it will work – soul searching. Go somewhere, enjoy  your own company. Know what your deepest insecurities are and start accepting every single one of it. Nobody will love you like the way you love yourself.

5. Be Grateful

No matter how scarce your resources are, be thankful for it. Be grateful that you were given the chance to see the beauty of the world. Train yourself to celebrate the ordinary things because the extra ordinary things can take care of itself. 

Smile, get up, dress up and look for something to be thankful for. This will surely make you choose your own happiness. Tell me other ways of choosing happiness. 🙂 Happy Sunday all! 

I’ve Waited Long For This

Have you ever prayed for something before and it started to materialize one by one?
That it was just a thought 4 years ago and has now become a reality?

“Be careful what you wish for ‘coz you might just get it”

Yes, you have to be careful with what you wish for because we’d never know if we can get it or not. But what would you feel if it wasn’t the way you thought it was?

It’s presented with a lot of problems.
Unstable.
Stressful.
Unhappy.

and everything you thought was just assumptions?

How would you react to it?

Absurd isn’t?

Would you still like to stay for it? or would you be fixing the problem that you get along the way?

Imagine yourself wishing and longing for love. You thought it was all roses; that thorns were out of the picture. But when you finally knew what love is, it was a vein of thorns that has a rose on it.

But remember, it was still the place that you once prayed for.

Would you still fight for it?

Those thorns that will prick you along the way were the hindrances and challenges that will let you question your dream. If you really want it, you will accept every flaw that it has shown you. Love (and life) has always been like that. It will never give you a bed roses without thorns on it. Life will always find reason to challenge you and so with your dreams. If you really want it, no matter what it takes, you will fight for it. it’s life way of asking you,

How much do you really want to have it?
Are you going to accept everything about it even the inconveniences it’ll give you?
Will you continue to love it even though you’ve seen and felt its flaws?

Life has its own way of challenging you. the question is, “Are you willing to accept the challenges it beholds, for you to get what you have always dreamed of?”

Be the Problem Solver: One Problem At A Time

Our world has never been perfect. We always see ourselves in the middle of a battle – whether it be with ourselves or with other people. Unfortunately, this world never ran out of problems – at home, at work, with friends, with loved ones, with acquaintances and with every person we’d meet along the way. But hey, there’s good news..

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Photo grabbed from:
The Soul Purpose Project

Start becoming a problem solver: One problem at a time.
How do you become a problem solver?
Start from your own self. Resolve inner conflict with yourself. Learn to forgive oneself on things you didn’t do and the bad things you’ve committed. Start looking at the mirror and admire the person you are seeing. Resolve the things you hate about yourself. Work on it.
Laziness? Get up and just put yourself out there.
Procrastinating? Start getting things done.
After yourself, start resolving your conflict at home – with your wife, partner, mother, parents, sibling, then with your co workers, neighbors, community and so on.
Start with baby steps.
Start with small goals and every day, create new ones.
A compilation of small acts of kindness will overwhelm the world.

It’s the small things that matters.
A single act of kindness is better than the grandest intention.

Start small and end big. You’ll never know how many problems will you solve if you won’t try something you have never encountered.

Problems will always be part of life – learn to deal with it; otherwise, you’ll just end up wishing and hoping you did.