Hitting a Plateau?

Who among you felt like plateauing in life?

What is a Plateau?

It’s when you thought you have nothing more to offer. When you thought that you’ve got all that you want and you cease to grow because you were at “that” stage when you have gotten what you’ve dreamed of.

This is one of the most dangerous part of life. When you close your minds to more possibilities because you thought, you’ve got it all and you don’t have that big of a lid that will encompass a much bigger scope of influence and dream. Sometimes, it’s fear that is constantly feeding that kind of mindset (which can be another story).

I once dreamed of becoming a better version of myself. I think everyone does. But what will stop you from dreaming? When you’d finally gotten into the top of “your” hill? When you think you have nothing more to learn because you thought you had been the best?

My goodness! what a mindset.

I also fell into that trap of thinking. Maybe because I have read plenty of books and I thought I was on top of my game. But then, who said, there is an ending to all possibilities in this world? Who said that you should stop dreaming when you’ve finally been into your destination?

I tell you, there will always be a room for improvement. We never stop learning and our life is a never ending journey of reflection and continuous growth.

In times when you are plateauing and you do not know where to go, remember that there will always be a much better service that you can offer. You never cease to look for something more. Something bigger that you have right now. It’s human nature to look for something more. If you stop looking for more, your mind will rot and will start creating a bunch of excuses not to dream more and do more. When you stop, you’d feel lost (again) and defeated.

Inaction – doing nothing about a situation strengthen fear and destroys confidence.
– The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

Don’t be fooled though. I am not talking about monetary increase or growth. Or life milestone. I am talking about the value that you give to others. What more can you give? What are the weaknesses that you need to enrich to be at your full potential?

Watch your words during these times of your life. Most of the time, this is when you are so dangerous because not only can you trick your mind into nonsense excuses but, you can also influence others to be at that mindset. Which will then add to the negativity in this world. A very crucial part of life I should say.

I realize how important it is to dream. To look for something more and becoming more than you are right now. You never stop and you never quit. Also, let me end this post with an excerpt from a poem that held so much meaning in my life.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won if he’d stuck it out,
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow,
You might succeed with another blow.

Often the struggler has given up,
When he might captured the victor’s cup.
And he learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown,

It may be near when it seems afar,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit,
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.

Don’t Quit by Edgar A. Guest

Tired? Is it Good or Bad?

There are two types of tiredness – the good and the bad – Good Tired and Bad Tired. What type of tiredness do you have?

I have read this notion in one of the books I’ve read last year by John Izzo, The Five Secrets you Must Discover Before you Die.

We always feel tired at the end of day. After school, work or just because you did something that exhausts your energy – maybe after exercising or doing your household chores. Our body’s energy will get drained and would want a good night sleep to replenish all those lost physical power. But what is the difference of the two types of tiredness? Is it just based on how tired you are at the end of day or was it something to do with how we felt about that “tiredness”?

Before explaining what the good tired is, which I am not sure if it’s your current feeling right now, “Bad Tiredness” is much more relatable because more often than not, we would wake up at the wrong side of the bed – being motivated requires practice and if you are, you wouldn’t probably need this article because you are 100% sure that you fall under the “Good Tired” category.

What is Bad Tiredness?

Bad tired is when you are demotivated. When you felt undervalued and you totally do not want what you are doing. You are dragging yourself into doing what you do. You felt sick and your morale was at the rock bottom and you don’t have the idea to lift yourself up. It’s like you are stuck. The tiredness is more apparently felt on the outside (physical) because the inside of you is drained. Your inner drive is what’s telling you, “Hey, you are tired” and not your physical body instead.

The Good Tiredness on the other is the best feeling you could ever feel. No matter how your physical body says that you are tired, you seem to be stubborn not to follow through with it. You continue to do your job anyway. Good Tired is when you are motivated inside no matter how hard the situation is. You keep on pushing yourself.

What category are you currently at, right now?

Does this mean, being in the “Bad Tired” category means it’s the end of the world for you? Well, the good news is, it will never be too late. You maybe finding yourself in the dark side category however, you always have the option to dream and look forward to what you really think that can make you happy – your mind is your greatest asset. If you only set it the right way, then you will soon get that “good tiredness” that you want. But what do you need?

Sacrifice (for the mean time)Sometimes, you are in the bad side because you don’t know what to ask the universe. You are giving mixed signals of what you want. Remember, you must have focus. Ask yourself, what do you really want to pursue?

And attract the good omens and right people to help you out. 

You may be stuck right now to where you are, but if you have that goal mindset along with hardwork, then one by one you will get what you have dreamed about. That bad tiredness for now, is your hard work.

Being in the “Good Tiredness” category is not easy to be into. It requires persistence, tenacity to get your goal and one of the most important thing that we tend to undermine is, courage. Courage to fight for what we really like despite all the setbacks that we have in life.

Courage doesn’t mean being fearless; it’s about knowing what fear is, and doing it anyway.

So the questions I leave for you before you end reading this post is:
– Are you “Good Tired” or “Bad Tired”?
– If you belong to the “Good” then, you are on the right track, if you are not, what are you planning to do in order to be on the “Good” side?
(You have to be honest in answering this question, set aside what other people say and listen to what your heart says)

Start claiming that good side and let the universe work for you. Focus on your plans and goals. Never get distracted (keep going) and one day, you’d be surprised to be getting what you have dreamed about.

#HowToAdult Caravan By Francis Kong @ Ampitheater, UP Town Center

Thank you Mr. @franciskong for delivering a very powerful message about #howtoadult. My take away is to develop the power of discipline, (Intellectually, Emotionally, Physically, Financially and Spiritually). It's always a privilege to hear you talk about the success of one person the right way. May the Lord continuously bless you with wisdom and boldness to speak, Sir. Thank you for making this event possible, #thephilippinestar #metrobank #sunlife #avida "Discipline is delayed gratification"

First of all, this talk wouldn’t be made possible without the sponsors: Metrobank, Sun Life and Avida (with special participation of The Philippine Star and UP Town Center). We should be very thankful for your kindness by giving us the chance to listen and meet THE Francis Kong.

It has been a long time since I’ve been wishing to meet Francis Kong. I have not read any of his book but his page in Facebook has been trending for a while and I seemed to be so curious about him because of how positive he is and how many followers he has. If you are not yet one of them, please do so, for he’ll surely give you insights, inspiring words of wisdom and motivation – his niche (aside from being an entrepreneur/businessman). Seeing him in person and feeling his presence is very overwhelming and striking. He is such a charmer, a person of interest and a funny individual too – an icon as I’d say it.

He started his talk by introducing himself, his achievements and family – for sure, his pride and joy. He makes himself relatable by using the terms of this generation and no wonder, the millennials love him. He also looked like some Chinito celebrities like Jose Mari Chan, Richard Poon and Richard Yap which he jokingly started as an ice breaker. He surely knows how to grab the attention of his audience.

Let me also describe how he delivers his talk – ENGAGING. Something most speakers forget to dwell on nowadays. It has also nudged me into making my future classes more engaging and collaborative.

Once he has established the attention of his audience, he smoothly transitioned into the main menu of this event which is, How to be an Adult.

He started by citing an anecdote about high school reunions (yes, another attention grabbing scenario that everyone can relate) in which he’d set an eye-opener situation, in which your school’s former “cool dudes” before, can transform into a lame individual (after a few years) because of poor choices in their lives. How many times have we heard this story and we can never get tired of this?

“We are the products of the choices we make from day to day.”

Which leads me to my first take away:
Right Behavior, yields Right Outcome.  

He then smoothly transitioned (again) into questioning us with: “How can you build the right behavior in order to give you excellent results?” The answer is, DISCIPLINE.

In which, he explained that discipline means, “Delayed Gratification” and in our life, there are five areas that we need to be disciplined on:

  • Intellectual
  • Emotional
  • Physical
  • Financial
  • Spiritual

While he was explaining about the Physical Discipline, he invited a surprise guest speaker that he “ambushed” into talking for us – Mr. TJ Manotoc – high caliber host, sports anchor and just like everyone, has started as a dreamer as well.

My best take away from him is the importance of Confidence. That one characteristic of every winners and champions that he have met, is confidence. That every individual will have that phase of his life wherein he can be lost and wouldn’t know what to do. Just like everyone of us. Truly an inspiration as well, to the younger generation.

During that time, the rain started pouring and the night is ticking already; thus, the dark photos that you can see below. Nevertheless, the rain will not hinder us from learning more from Sir Francis.

The highlight for me, for this whole event is when Sir Francis started to lay out where you, as an individual should get your worth as a person. And this is the best take away for me.

“Don’t get your worth from what you have. It’s calledACQUISITION.
Don’t get your worth from what you do.  It’s calledACCOMPLISHMENTS.
Don’t get your worth from what you look.  It’s calledAPPEARANCE.
Don’t get your worth from what other people say.  It’s calledAPPROVAL.

Where should you get your worth?

Get your worth from what you are becoming.”

And that summarizes the whole two-hour event that I have attended, despite my lack of sleep (because of my nature of work). And for me, this is how a productive weekend look like.

Thank you Sir Francis for those words of wisdom. You are truly an inspiration. 🙂

Thank you for dropping by and I hope you also had your own take aways from this blog post.

Remember, Get your worth from what you are becoming.

Be Prepared for the Shit Sandwich

I’ve Waited Long for This

That was the article I wrote after getting what I dreamed of, 5 years ago – to become a trainer. It wasn’t an easy road to get through. Roadblocks, setbacks, hurdles, struggles and I must admit, I wasn’t prepared for the shit sandwich.

But first of all, what is a “Shit Sandwich”?

It was Elizabeth Gilbert who introduced that notion to me. Shit sandwich is the “shit” that comes along with your dream. It’s the struggles that you have to face and you should endure, for you to get into or stick with your dream. It’s the concept when someone tells you, “You can’t succeed!” because you are not enough. It’s the depression that you’d feel thereafter and these are the stormy days that you face just to become your dream.

If you are a singer, the shit sandwich that you should face is the booing of people while you perform and those people who’d belittle your talent, If you are a dancer, that is the crack in your bone that hinders you to perform well. For students, it’s the homework that you have to do and the projects that you have to finish. And for me, it’s the complexity of the whole dream of mine. Makes me think, “Do I really want this?”; something that I never saw coming.

As what I’ve read too, in one of John Maxwell’s book,

“The Punch that knocks you out is not necessarily the hardest one, but the one that you didn’t see coming.”

So, every struggle that you face, are there for a reason. To continuously ask you, “Do you really want this? if Yes, then, conquer me. You may quit anytime. Probably, this is not really your dream. Maybe this is a dream that was only imposed to you. A dream that you thought you wanted, but in reality, you don’t give a damn.

I’ve also found an article too, where one famous writer, the author of Harry Potter Series, THE J.K Rowling, posted her rejection letters to her fans to give them inspiration to dream big and never let this shit sandwich come their way. Who would have known that someone like her has been rejected when she was starting. If she gave up, we would never have known, who Harry Potter is.

So, before I’d end up this article, I will leave you with the question, what shit sandwich are you willing to take for you to fight for your dream? Somethings we need to ponder on.

An Open Letter to Critics

Go. Criticize me all you want.
Throw stones at me all you like.
I’d rather be wrong and find out I am, rather than believing that I am living a lie – a world of make-believe, where everything seems to be perfect.

Go and find fault in me because that is the only way I know that can help me improve.
Go. Look at me like I am the most stupid person in this world;
Blame me for all the things they did wrong because that is the only way I can protect them from incompetence and lack of empathy.

Go. Because that is what we are good at – pointing fingers.
Go and let me learn from every pitfall I’d find myself fallen into.
Find me at fault to every negligence, when it was the lack of strategy that’s causing every missed opportunity.
Go and give me all the knock-outs now.

Sometimes, we need to learn the hard way and only the strong and the mighty can accept that truth.

“Some people will always throw stones in your path. It depends on you what you make with them, Wall or Bridge? Remember you are the architect of your life.” – Anonymous

You can blame me all you want but you will never see me cry.
I will never apologize because I’ve poured my heart and soul to everything that I do.
If that is not enough for you, you have two choices:
Keep me and keep up with me, until I finally learned from my mistakes or
Let me go.
Either way, it’ll never be my loss, because I am used to starting from scratch and bouncing back to life over and over again.

To those who will and who had criticized me, thank you because
You’ve made me stronger by breaking my heart.