Tired? Is it Good or Bad?

There are two types of tiredness – the good and the bad – Good Tired and Bad Tired. What type of tiredness do you have?

I have read this notion in one of the books I’ve read last year by John Izzo, The Five Secrets you Must Discover Before you Die.

We always feel tired at the end of day. After school, work or just because you did something that exhausts your energy – maybe after exercising or doing your household chores. Our body’s energy will get drained and would want a good night sleep to replenish all those lost physical power. But what is the difference of the two types of tiredness? Is it just based on how tired you are at the end of day or was it something to do with how we felt about that “tiredness”?

Before explaining what the good tired is, which I am not sure if it’s your current feeling right now, “Bad Tiredness” is much more relatable because more often than not, we would wake up at the wrong side of the bed – being motivated requires practice and if you are, you wouldn’t probably need this article because you are 100% sure that you fall under the “Good Tired” category.

What is Bad Tiredness?

Bad tired is when you are demotivated. When you felt undervalued and you totally do not want what you are doing. You are dragging yourself into doing what you do. You felt sick and your morale was at the rock bottom and you don’t have the idea to lift yourself up. It’s like you are stuck. The tiredness is more apparently felt on the outside (physical) because the inside of you is drained. Your inner drive is what’s telling you, “Hey, you are tired” and not your physical body instead.

The Good Tiredness on the other is the best feeling you could ever feel. No matter how your physical body says that you are tired, you seem to be stubborn not to follow through with it. You continue to do your job anyway. Good Tired is when you are motivated inside no matter how hard the situation is. You keep on pushing yourself.

What category are you currently at, right now?

Does this mean, being in the “Bad Tired” category means it’s the end of the world for you? Well, the good news is, it will never be too late. You maybe finding yourself in the dark side category however, you always have the option to dream and look forward to what you really think that can make you happy – your mind is your greatest asset. If you only set it the right way, then you will soon get that “good tiredness” that you want. But what do you need?

Sacrifice (for the mean time)Sometimes, you are in the bad side because you don’t know what to ask the universe. You are giving mixed signals of what you want. Remember, you must have focus. Ask yourself, what do you really want to pursue?

And attract the good omens and right people to help you out. 

You may be stuck right now to where you are, but if you have that goal mindset along with hardwork, then one by one you will get what you have dreamed about. That bad tiredness for now, is your hard work.

Being in the “Good Tiredness” category is not easy to be into. It requires persistence, tenacity to get your goal and one of the most important thing that we tend to undermine is, courage. Courage to fight for what we really like despite all the setbacks that we have in life.

Courage doesn’t mean being fearless; it’s about knowing what fear is, and doing it anyway.

So the questions I leave for you before you end reading this post is:
– Are you “Good Tired” or “Bad Tired”?
– If you belong to the “Good” then, you are on the right track, if you are not, what are you planning to do in order to be on the “Good” side?
(You have to be honest in answering this question, set aside what other people say and listen to what your heart says)

Start claiming that good side and let the universe work for you. Focus on your plans and goals. Never get distracted (keep going) and one day, you’d be surprised to be getting what you have dreamed about.

Be Prepared for the Shit Sandwich

I’ve Waited Long for This

That was the article I wrote after getting what I dreamed of, 5 years ago – to become a trainer. It wasn’t an easy road to get through. Roadblocks, setbacks, hurdles, struggles and I must admit, I wasn’t prepared for the shit sandwich.

But first of all, what is a “Shit Sandwich”?

It was Elizabeth Gilbert who introduced that notion to me. Shit sandwich is the “shit” that comes along with your dream. It’s the struggles that you have to face and you should endure, for you to get into or stick with your dream. It’s the concept when someone tells you, “You can’t succeed!” because you are not enough. It’s the depression that you’d feel thereafter and these are the stormy days that you face just to become your dream.

If you are a singer, the shit sandwich that you should face is the booing of people while you perform and those people who’d belittle your talent, If you are a dancer, that is the crack in your bone that hinders you to perform well. For students, it’s the homework that you have to do and the projects that you have to finish. And for me, it’s the complexity of the whole dream of mine. Makes me think, “Do I really want this?”; something that I never saw coming.

As what I’ve read too, in one of John Maxwell’s book,

“The Punch that knocks you out is not necessarily the hardest one, but the one that you didn’t see coming.”

So, every struggle that you face, are there for a reason. To continuously ask you, “Do you really want this? if Yes, then, conquer me. You may quit anytime. Probably, this is not really your dream. Maybe this is a dream that was only imposed to you. A dream that you thought you wanted, but in reality, you don’t give a damn.

I’ve also found an article too, where one famous writer, the author of Harry Potter Series, THE J.K Rowling, posted her rejection letters to her fans to give them inspiration to dream big and never let this shit sandwich come their way. Who would have known that someone like her has been rejected when she was starting. If she gave up, we would never have known, who Harry Potter is.

So, before I’d end up this article, I will leave you with the question, what shit sandwich are you willing to take for you to fight for your dream? Somethings we need to ponder on.

I’ve Waited Long For This

Have you ever prayed for something before and it started to materialize one by one?
That it was just a thought 4 years ago and has now become a reality?

“Be careful what you wish for ‘coz you might just get it”

Yes, you have to be careful with what you wish for because we’d never know if we can get it or not. But what would you feel if it wasn’t the way you thought it was?

It’s presented with a lot of problems.
Unstable.
Stressful.
Unhappy.

and everything you thought was just assumptions?

How would you react to it?

Absurd isn’t?

Would you still like to stay for it? or would you be fixing the problem that you get along the way?

Imagine yourself wishing and longing for love. You thought it was all roses; that thorns were out of the picture. But when you finally knew what love is, it was a vein of thorns that has a rose on it.

But remember, it was still the place that you once prayed for.

Would you still fight for it?

Those thorns that will prick you along the way were the hindrances and challenges that will let you question your dream. If you really want it, you will accept every flaw that it has shown you. Love (and life) has always been like that. It will never give you a bed roses without thorns on it. Life will always find reason to challenge you and so with your dreams. If you really want it, no matter what it takes, you will fight for it. it’s life way of asking you,

How much do you really want to have it?
Are you going to accept everything about it even the inconveniences it’ll give you?
Will you continue to love it even though you’ve seen and felt its flaws?

Life has its own way of challenging you. the question is, “Are you willing to accept the challenges it beholds, for you to get what you have always dreamed of?”

Be the Problem Solver: One Problem At A Time

Our world has never been perfect. We always see ourselves in the middle of a battle – whether it be with ourselves or with other people. Unfortunately, this world never ran out of problems – at home, at work, with friends, with loved ones, with acquaintances and with every person we’d meet along the way. But hey, there’s good news..

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Photo grabbed from:
The Soul Purpose Project

Start becoming a problem solver: One problem at a time.
How do you become a problem solver?
Start from your own self. Resolve inner conflict with yourself. Learn to forgive oneself on things you didn’t do and the bad things you’ve committed. Start looking at the mirror and admire the person you are seeing. Resolve the things you hate about yourself. Work on it.
Laziness? Get up and just put yourself out there.
Procrastinating? Start getting things done.
After yourself, start resolving your conflict at home – with your wife, partner, mother, parents, sibling, then with your co workers, neighbors, community and so on.
Start with baby steps.
Start with small goals and every day, create new ones.
A compilation of small acts of kindness will overwhelm the world.

It’s the small things that matters.
A single act of kindness is better than the grandest intention.

Start small and end big. You’ll never know how many problems will you solve if you won’t try something you have never encountered.

Problems will always be part of life – learn to deal with it; otherwise, you’ll just end up wishing and hoping you did.

On Mediocrity

Mediocrity was a word that doesn’t seem to affect me before. It was the status quo that I thought I should live about. I thought it was the safety net that would keep you on your game.

But somehow, when you finish a project with a mediocre effort, it doesn’t seem to satisfy my high standards.

If there are two enemies that I still try to combat in my life until now, it’s procrastination and mediocrity. Procrastination though was something I get to control somehow at the very least. I get to fight it with dignity.

Always Get Things Done. That’s an article I have written few years back to improve my procrastinating self. But mediocrity was different. It’s much difficult to deal with. It’s like running in my blood. But, I come to realize that it’s not mediocrity that causes my grief. It’s my lack of motivation. It’s laziness. It’s dependency to other people and the lack of belief to oneself.

I keep on asking why, to know what causes it and as I do, I realize, I am not mediocre. I always do my best in everything and it was just my high standards that made me believe I am. In everything I do, I always follow my heart. Maybe, its all about comparing my achievement to other people that would touch my ego, thus made me conclude I am mediocre.

I realize mediocrity would arise if you don’t lay all your cards, if you keep yourself on the safe side and just be content and would not strive for high ideals.

I may have suffered mediocrity in my eyes but what’s important is for you to defy the norms and always try your very best in every situation.

Mediocrity is the result of a half-hearted man.