Turning Point

Hi guys! It’s been ages since I have published something worthwhile here. Though I know, you often see my posts in my other blog, Books in My Baggage (If not, feel free to check it out), I have not published any article here in a while.

This is not because I have forgotten about you all, but because I am currently working on myself.

As what they say, you can not give what you don’t have.

Thus, I am earnestly working towards my self-development so that I’d be able to share more values to my readers.

Last two years was a little tough and had challenged my grit and perseverance so much, to the point of giving up at some point. It wasn’t life changing or tear jerking though. Nothing that you need to worry about.

And maybe the reason why I keep on reading books about winning and loosing. The wisdom I’ve gain from those books were 100 folds more than the price that I got them, which I am very thankful about.

Last year 2016, though I’ve had a lot of family travels and started to see and experience more places, I have not posted some of those here and I am so sorry about it. I have also removed some of the travel and food posts here too. I have thought about it a number of times because my travels wasn’t only really about the shallow parts of travelling.

The travels here were more than places. Sometimes, it’s about traveling back n time – reflecting about what happened in the pasts that have shaped my today and can surely affect the future.

Though this blog will still be about travelling and inspiration, I just felt like it is time to re brand it.

Travel, reflect, inspire and express will still be four verbs that I’ll keep but would be using them in a different context.

Travel Reflections and Expressive Inspiration.

And that is the value that we will give you in the long run. For sure, there are questions that are running in your head right now and the About Page of this blog has been updated for your consumption, but let me also put it here in the posts to serve more audience.

What is Travel Reflections?

Travel reflections isn’t only about discovering new places and hot spots in town, it’s also about travelling through time – by going through the past, analyzing the present and preparing for the future.

How about, Expressive Inspiration?

Expressive inspiration is when you are lured to negativity but you choose to be positive and inspire others. Expressive inspiration isn’t common nowadays. You know why? It’s because it’s easy to quit, say goodbye and reset your life.

Why Re brand?

This is also my fourth branding: My Baggage Counter, Blog Made to Inspire, Travel.Reflect.Inspire.Express and right now, TRI Express.

And I’m never gonna stop until I’ll find what is best for this site, that can also allow me to  embrace my love for reflections and inspiration.

I am an advocate of self-awareness and believes in what Lao Tsu said,

“Knowing others is intelligence;knowing yourself is true wisdom.Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.”

Don’t get me wrong and might think that knowing thyself is a selfish act, for I will revert back to our first point which is, “You can not give what you don’t have”. 

Giving yourself the wisdom that you need is never selfishness. Because the more you feed your mind with relative soulful thoughts, the more you’ll continuously give value to people around you.

This is my life’s turning point. When value to people is my greatest goal. And I will always live in my mantra,

“If you cannot change the world, at the very least, change yourself.”

Imagine a community that would want to change themselves to their greatest version, what a wonderful world this could become. 🙂

Blank

I had to deep breathe and search inside my head for something exciting to write about. It was dull. Black and white. Nothing to say, nothing to preach.

After work, for the last three months I think, I’d find myself staring blankly with nothing in mind. Not the usual overthinking me. It’s as if, I just want to shut down and just be free from anything. Feel myself and my heart beat.

What I’d search in youtube? Not the Ted talk I used to, but some operating room surgery – pimple popping videos or anything that doesn’t require thinking – just watching.

I don’t know if this is healthy or not but for sometime, I’m nothing but my work and my advocacy to make my line of business successful. It has been my life. Even my dreams would be composed of my work stuff ; and sadly, I never got annoyed with it.

Maybe, I’ve placed my heart and soul into it, thinking it was my own company that I run. Sometimes, I open my office’ door and think, I will have a company like this. (Just weird things I’ve thought about. Something random).

My passion right now, is not only to write and read, just like before. Passion do also evolve. (Good to know!) Just like self discovery and Learning. It never ceases. It changes, time after time and you must find yourself up to date all the time. My passion right now, is facing challenges with dignity. Sometimes, I think I’m unstoppable. Thank you, to all the struggles I have faced these days. I am maturing professionally and I like it. Maybe, the more problems I get to encounter and resolve, the better I’d become in the future.

It’s still not making sense right now and I have multiple unanswered questions in my head too.

But what can I do? I submit to what my heart truly desires and leave it all up to the author of my life. What I can promise Him is, in everything that I do, I’d do out of love and with His guidance, I know I can conquer anything.

So help me, God.

This is my ephemeral outburst 02/16/2016 😊
The feelings ain’t apathy anymore. It’s the burning desire and belief, that we can make it through the rain. It’s as if, success is within our reach. 😱😊

Another Maybe – Not

Weird it is for people to come inside my life and go instantly – JUST LIKE THAT. Ages ago, goodbyes hurt so much, thinking it was solely my fault (Well, it still does but not as much as before). At some point, I’d still ask myself, was it really me who is at fault? Or is it just not meant to last? That, their role in my life is over and I just need to move on?

This ain’t only about love but so as friendship. They say, nothing is forever but why does it come to you like a lifetime of agony and a repeated cycle, to be endured over and over again? Do I really have to get used to it and just move on, one heartbreak after another?

I think the answer is yes, but why does it seem to be so constant, that every person I meet, is expected to go and just leave me behind? Was it because I’ve empowered them to become better and use their folded wings behind them? Do I really intimidate them that much? Or was I too strong and opinionated to be handled? Am I being too authentic, early on?

I’m ain’t a victim here because it’s not like I don’t know how to adapt to changes, because I do. However, because of too much adaptability, sometimes, when I think they are drifting away, it seems to be expected and made me look like, I expect crap from people, which I know, shouldn’t be; for I always believe, there is someone out there that will last and will stay.

I just stare somewhere and think about them, those that had been my “maybe’s” that never became that somebody, hoping that someday, I can ask them this question, “What happened?”.

This is my ephemeral outburst 02/17/2016

That Last Election

Three weeks after that, not so social media friendly election, we are back to our normal lives. Somehow, I have witnessed a few number of presidential elections in the past and this by far is the most controversial one – I think. I’m never a political analyst of some sort and I am a normal Filipino citizen but the blast of that election has been felt all over the social networking sites.

How many of us have had a heated conversation/s with our friends or family members because of our differences in what we believe is “right”? How many of us unfriend-ed some people  in our friend list because of too much posts, status and opinions related to politics and elections? How many friendship has been tested?

It has been a very long 3 months of campaign period and if there is one things I learned from that last election, it is Respect.

That each one of us wanted to be heard and not all people are mature enough to understand the simple fact that we are all different from each other. I realize that no matter how close you are to anybody (your best friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, mother, sister, father etc), you can have two opposing beliefs that can test your relationship especially if one won’t be sensitive enough, towards other people’s feelings.

That you will never be able to impose anything to anybody. No matter how hard you try. You can convince them of your points, but you will never change their minds just like that.

It was then that I realize how different we really are and how unique one can think. Some bizarre, unjustifiable and some, have passionate love towards their candidates. It’s awesome to think that I get to experience that last election. It was the first time that I get to see myself so involved and even up until now when it’s all over and done, I see myself reading some write ups that I don’t usually read before (things that never really interest me, until now) – cabinet members, election proclamation, current events etc.

I’m not sure if it’s because we, the millennials are starting to be involved or was it our time to shine, because we were once the kids that has now grown up to finally fulfill the promise that “A nations’ hope is their children”.

How “Single” Should Look Like

“If you were saved from a relationshit, then you should learn to appreciate it.”

Not that I am being very cynical about your reasons of being single, but at some point, there was a reason why you are single. Maybe for days, months and for some – years.

When you are in a middle of a broken heart, whether it’s a good break up or not, you’d (at some point) cry for awhile, would think what went wrong and would utter prayers such as “Why?”.

Break up is one of the most tear jerking moments of your life, thinking it has no end. That the pain inside is unlimited, that you won’t know where to start – a life that might have died, even while still in the relationship.

For me, though being in a relationship is good and satisfying, it is during my single hood that I became a better person. The time when I explore the side of me, I never knew and the moment I get to experience a life, I know, that will change and be different, once I’d settle into a relationship.

Single life is also a gift. A gift that was wrapped in a mirror – it reflects what’s in its environment – adapting what surrounds it and you have to look at it and appreciate your own reflection first, before you get to open and appreciate what’s within.

Some people dreaded this gift because it can cause some hurt in their eyes when they look at it because sometimes, it reflects the sunlight.

Some wouldn’t like this gift because they don’t like what they see when they look at it – their own reflection.

There is something weird in this gift because of how it looks like. When it’s in a dark room, it’ll also look dark to the point of not even noticing it. It sort of camouflages and adapts to it’s environment.

On the other hand, when surrounded by a sunny garden, flowers and beautiful things, it does shows that lively spirit too. When you put your single hood gift in an energy of positivity, that is what you’d also gain from it. If you dwell on things otherwise, you’d also get that negative vibes.

Being single should be experienced in a passionate manner too. I never thought one can be passionate with life without their other half. I can’t help but remember a Youtube video entitled, “When the missing piece, meets the big, O”.

 You have to know how to roll on your own and be that “complete” being, to be able to appreciate this gift.

But, the question here is, how?

By choosing yourself, over and over again. 

When you are single, you never stop dating, going to places and meet new people. And when you stumble upon someone that can guarantee confusion and complications in the long run, learn to choose your own happiness over the idea of just being in a relationship, just to satisfy your longing to having a partner – even if it’s less than what you’ve dreamed about. The “good” will always be the “best”‘s rival in your life.

Being single entitles you to be strong, amidst those temptations and you should choose yourself (and also your future) again and again. A future that you have embedded in your mind. A standard that you’ve settled for yourself.

Waiting for the right time is as crucial too as accepting this gift because patience is something that is incorporated in this gift.

People would sometimes forget to savor the moment and would jump into another relationship without really appreciating and enjoying this gift of single hood.

I’m not saying that someone should wait for a lifetime, like the story of Love Rosie by Cecelia Ahern type of waiting but just enough when you know and have uttered, “Yes, this is what I want and I am choosing this life.”

At times it can be a detour, that entails getting lost along the way. Uncertainty can also blur your mind into something you thought was nice, but wasn’t. Sometimes, you can be blinded – Salt looks a lot like sugar too and not all glittery are gold.

Being single must be perceived as a gift and not as a curse. Get to learn from it, savor every minute of it and become that one whole piece of gold that will be sought after by a lot of people. Not because of your glitter but because of your soul and who you really are as a person. This is the time of your life when you will be in connection with your inner self and not all people were given this chance of a lifetime.