Hitting a Plateau?

Who among you felt like plateauing in life?

What is a Plateau?

It’s when you thought you have nothing more to offer. When you thought that you’ve got all that you want and you cease to grow because you were at “that” stage when you have gotten what you’ve dreamed of.

This is one of the most dangerous part of life. When you close your minds to more possibilities because you thought, you’ve got it all and you don’t have that big of a lid that will encompass a much bigger scope of influence and dream. Sometimes, it’s fear that is constantly feeding that kind of mindset (which can be another story).

I once dreamed of becoming a better version of myself. I think everyone does. But what will stop you from dreaming? When you’d finally gotten into the top of “your” hill? When you think you have nothing more to learn because you thought you had been the best?

My goodness! what a mindset.

I also fell into that trap of thinking. Maybe because I have read plenty of books and I thought I was on top of my game. But then, who said, there is an ending to all possibilities in this world? Who said that you should stop dreaming when you’ve finally been into your destination?

I tell you, there will always be a room for improvement. We never stop learning and our life is a never ending journey of reflection and continuous growth.

In times when you are plateauing and you do not know where to go, remember that there will always be a much better service that you can offer. You never cease to look for something more. Something bigger that you have right now. It’s human nature to look for something more. If you stop looking for more, your mind will rot and will start creating a bunch of excuses not to dream more and do more. When you stop, you’d feel lost (again) and defeated.

Inaction – doing nothing about a situation strengthen fear and destroys confidence.
– The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

Don’t be fooled though. I am not talking about monetary increase or growth. Or life milestone. I am talking about the value that you give to others. What more can you give? What are the weaknesses that you need to enrich to be at your full potential?

Watch your words during these times of your life. Most of the time, this is when you are so dangerous because not only can you trick your mind into nonsense excuses but, you can also influence others to be at that mindset. Which will then add to the negativity in this world. A very crucial part of life I should say.

I realize how important it is to dream. To look for something more and becoming more than you are right now. You never stop and you never quit. Also, let me end this post with an excerpt from a poem that held so much meaning in my life.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won if he’d stuck it out,
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow,
You might succeed with another blow.

Often the struggler has given up,
When he might captured the victor’s cup.
And he learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown,

It may be near when it seems afar,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit,
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.

Don’t Quit by Edgar A. Guest

Turning Point

Hi guys! It’s been ages since I have published something worthwhile here. Though I know, you often see my posts in my other blog, Books in My Baggage (If not, feel free to check it out), I have not published any article here in a while.

This is not because I have forgotten about you all, but because I am currently working on myself.

As what they say, you can not give what you don’t have.

Thus, I am earnestly working towards my self-development so that I’d be able to share more values to my readers.

Last two years was a little tough and had challenged my grit and perseverance so much, to the point of giving up at some point. It wasn’t life changing or tear jerking though. Nothing that you need to worry about.

And maybe the reason why I keep on reading books about winning and loosing. The wisdom I’ve gain from those books were 100 folds more than the price that I got them, which I am very thankful about.

Last year 2016, though I’ve had a lot of family travels and started to see and experience more places, I have not posted some of those here and I am so sorry about it. I have also removed some of the travel and food posts here too. I have thought about it a number of times because my travels wasn’t only really about the shallow parts of travelling.

The travels here were more than places. Sometimes, it’s about traveling back n time – reflecting about what happened in the pasts that have shaped my today and can surely affect the future.

Though this blog will still be about travelling and inspiration, I just felt like it is time to re brand it.

Travel, reflect, inspire and express will still be four verbs that I’ll keep but would be using them in a different context.

Travel Reflections and Expressive Inspiration.

And that is the value that we will give you in the long run. For sure, there are questions that are running in your head right now and the About Page of this blog has been updated for your consumption, but let me also put it here in the posts to serve more audience.

What is Travel Reflections?

Travel reflections isn’t only about discovering new places and hot spots in town, it’s also about travelling through time – by going through the past, analyzing the present and preparing for the future.

How about, Expressive Inspiration?

Expressive inspiration is when you are lured to negativity but you choose to be positive and inspire others. Expressive inspiration isn’t common nowadays. You know why? It’s because it’s easy to quit, say goodbye and reset your life.

Why Re brand?

This is also my fourth branding: My Baggage Counter, Blog Made to Inspire, Travel.Reflect.Inspire.Express and right now, TRI Express.

And I’m never gonna stop until I’ll find what is best for this site, that can also allow me to  embrace my love for reflections and inspiration.

I am an advocate of self-awareness and believes in what Lao Tsu said,

“Knowing others is intelligence;knowing yourself is true wisdom.Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.”

Don’t get me wrong and might think that knowing thyself is a selfish act, for I will revert back to our first point which is, “You can not give what you don’t have”. 

Giving yourself the wisdom that you need is never selfishness. Because the more you feed your mind with relative soulful thoughts, the more you’ll continuously give value to people around you.

This is my life’s turning point. When value to people is my greatest goal. And I will always live in my mantra,

“If you cannot change the world, at the very least, change yourself.”

Imagine a community that would want to change themselves to their greatest version, what a wonderful world this could become. 🙂

Guest Post: Take The Focus Back to You

Anne AamoneIf you have ever been in a long-lasting relationship, you are probably acquainted with all the sacrifices that you need to make constantly. It always comes to putting your partner’s needs at first place which often leads to ignoring your priorities and activities. Of course thinking about the other person always help us to realize that we are not all alone on that planet and that we need to get rid of the selfish behaviour that we tend to demonstrate without even realizing it.

I have to admit that maintaining a stable and serious relationship, where responsibilities are shared is more than challenge. There are a lot of obstacles that need to be overcome every single day and sometimes it is really hard not to lose your identity when you have committed all of your efforts on the relationship.

To take the focus back to you is not so difficult, if you are really determined to strive for your priorities. After all, true love has always have the power to survive even when faced in front of challenges. I will give you valuable advice how to cope with preserving your personality and way of living when you are in a relationship.

Discuss With Your Partner Your Hobbies and Interests

Find time to talk about your hobbies and interests and how you will fit them in your schedule. Do not neglect them, because you think that you won’t have time for your beloved one. I assure you that one or two hours, twice a week won’t represent a problem for your relationship. If your partner really respects you as a person he or she will be delighted with the idea that you want to develop your skills in a certain area. It is important to explain that you need the possibility to pay attention to your own interests, which, of course does not mean that you will sacrifice your relationship.

Make a List With Your Priorities

If you want to be sincere with your partner and, of course, to yourself, think about three priorities in your life, including your relationship. Make a list and write them down. If you have put aside some of them only because you are in a relationship, I assure you that this is definitely not the right thing. Compromises could be made both ways, so it is better to talk to your partner and to find a solution that will let you be yourself, with some of your priorities and professional activities.

Do not Lie about Your Plans and Intentions

As your relationship with your partner gets more and more serious, you are well aware that lies will only cause you a lot of problems to solve. Especially when it comes to priorities I advise you not to mislead the person in front of you, if your intentions are to focus strictly on yourself. Instead you can try to be honest and to find a solution that will save your relationship without stopping you from following your dreams. Although it sounds quite easy, I guarantee you that these issues require a lot of discussions and sleepless nights, so prepare yourself with a lot of patience.

These are the valuable tips that will allow you to focus on yourself,without ignoring your beloved one. Sharing the cleaning duties now seems like a child’s play but if you really count on your relationship you will find a decision to this problem that will let you follow your dream without hurting your partner. True love is capable of winning all the battles that are offered, so do not be afraid to hold your hands and to accept this challenge.

Contributed by Tenancy Cleaning N1

About the Author
Anna Aamone is currently working on multiple projects. She hardly has time for herself but she enjoys this dynamic and exciting lifestyle.

Why Become the Best Version of Yourself

I’ve always dreaded regrets.
Every time I had some, I can’t seem to find that “peace of mind”.

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It felt like becoming an incomplete being.
We will only live once and we must savor this time that was given to us. No matter how many lives we may have, if we won’t put our utmost importance and care to it, it won’t make any difference and we will always end up frustrated and unfulfilled.

Getting up with a goal in mind is one thing I still try to work on and is one of the lists I hope to do and get used to, to become that version of me that I will be proud of.

But, why do you need to be the best version of yourself?

Because everyone hates regrets.

Ever since I stumble upon this article:
The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
I started to work on my life.

How can I make it more lively? More interesting and most importantly, How can I make it worth living?

Creating a life with purpose will remain the puzzle that I need to solve. We may live 80, 50, 30 years and even shorter. We will NEVER know what our timeline will be. Nevertheless, we must always prepare ourselves.

Did I become the best version of myself today?

Or did I choose to WASTE the life that was given to me?

It’s time to think about how our lives are turning. No one will know yourself better than you do (supposedly). Reflect. Observe and Act on it.

Become the best version of yourself. Regardless. No if’s; No but’s.

Appreciating Loss

Confused Lost Puzzled Signpost Royalty Free Stock Images - Image: 16903019Seeing how stubborn my sister is, made me think how stubborn I was back then. It’s like looking at my own self a few years back.

My sister’s age is 23 now. The same age I wasn’t so fulfilled despite of all the good things life had offered me. May not be top notched but, I should say, I’d rather be grateful for it.

Seeing her made me realize that quarter life crisis do exist.

What else can that be?

  • unfulfilled
  • ungrateful
  • feeling alone and old
  • the feeling you haven’t accomplished anything
  • you compare yourself to others
  • you are generally LOST (caution: this is a blog post from my personal blog and this is a rant post, overly dramatic and it has a big disclaimer that says: READ AT YOUR OWN RISK)

You’re always miserable. You live in a drama filled world. It’s as if nothing can ease your soul and nothing can keep you at peace.

It’s like happiness and peace of mind is so out of reach and unattainable.

Without that urge to look for that “something” that is missing, you can’t be found in the end.

Because of that “eagerness” to find peace of mind and the moment I chose happiness, suddenly, solitude doesn’t seem to become a problem anymore and one by one everything started to make sense.

You started to appreciate the hurtful events in the past (and even in the present) because you realize that without those, you won’t be who you are today.

Without those crying moments, you won’t be a strong entity today.

Without getting lost, you can’t be found.

Who would have thought I’d be embracing those moments now?