Be a Teamplayer

Team player.

We would usually see it in job descriptions as a requirement to qualify to a certain position in a company. I’ve heard about this since I started looking for work and this word constantly appear to any job search I tried. I looked it up in google, and here is what I saw. team playerBut, why is it such big of a deal?
Teamwork is essential to make work less stressful; if you belong to a wonderful team of people, work would suddenly feel as if you’re not working. Somehow, you learn to love what you do because you feel safe around these people and once you belong to an awesome team, you’ll never drag yourself to work. That is why building a good team will always be a necessity at any workplace. On the other hand, how can one be a good team player? What can you do to contribute to the greatness of a team?

Team of ants work with mushroom, teamwork

1. Know that Not Everyone can be a Leader – AT THE SAME TIME

Everyone can become a leader and be the driver of the boat. On the other hand, nothing will be finished if everyone is the brain and nobody is doing the dirty work. A human being isn’t composed of all brains, you have your hands, your feet, your heart and your systems to do the work. If everyone is talking and no one is listening, nothing will be done.

Take turns. One person at a time. If you have any idea in mind, let others finish what they have to say and when it’s your turn to shine, own it. Sometimes, a leader may not be an initiator or creator of ideas, sometimes, a leader has to know how to facilitate people and organize ideas to come up with one awesome plan. 

2. Perform Your Role With All Your Might

According to this book, How to Say it For First Time Managers by Jack Griffin, there are four essential part of a team.

  • The Creators
  • The Refiners
  • The Advancers
  • The Executors

And everyone can be of different role in every circumstance and every type of member is as important as the others. It’s not always the Creator or the Initiator that is important and the critics are not always the assholes. The combination of the fours makes a team awesome. They only need to work harmoniously so they’d come up with a great idea.

The leader should be the one to put them together in a way that they would stick to each other. You don’t use a paper glue to stick on two woods together – you might need a nail and a hammer to keep them in place.

Always remember a team comprises of a leader and people. Without people, leader would be as useless as none.

3. Respect Each Other’s Opinions, Differences and Weaknesses

As an individual, we are entitled to have our own opinions and values and as part of a group, we have to respect each other’s personality to keep the harmony. Be assertive but at the same time, be open-minded and be sensitive to others. You don’t know where they are coming from.

There may be differences in the group’s personality, learn to adjust to one another. As what in desiderata says, “Be in good terms with all persons.” Know each other’s strengths and weaknesses. Not everyone is perfect but always dwell on the positive side rather than the negative. Accept each other’s flaws and short comings.

4. Believe in Yourself

Support each other. Learn to trust each other so everyone will believe in what they can do themselves. Lift each other up when one is feeling down. Remember the down fall of one is the downfall of all.

5. If Friction Arise, Learn Not to Take Sides

Don’t be too personal. The issue is not the person but what has transpired in that situation. Most team fall apart because of the mini groups formed within. If there is a rife within the group member, try to know what has caused this and resolve the problem from within. Talk to each other and dig on what seem to be problem. Smallest issue must be taken cared of because it will eventually bottle up and can cause more damage.

DO NOT ADD WOOD TO THE FIRE  by uttering comments that can worsen the rife. In every problem, one resolution can always solve it – COMMUNICATION. Communicate what you want and learn to compromise as well.

Being a part of a team, even though you thought you are the smallest and you thought you are the most irrelevant part of it, consider yourself as a peso or a cent. A MILLION will never be called a MILLION without you in it. Every team player is as important as a leader is.

So, You Think You’ve Got No Superpowers?

Words

Bitch!
Beautiful!
Perfect!
Stupid!
Lovely!
Exciting!
Fun!
Boring!

Those are single words which ranges from 4 letters and more.
Those were short, yet, imagine yourself receiving those words.
Imagine your boss saying, “You are stupid.” or saying, ” You are Lovely!” or what if he’d say, “You’ve done a perfect work”. What do you think would you feel? Do you think those words can change your mood right from that instant? Do you think it will affect your whole day?

Imagine your office mate or classmate saying “Bitch!” in front of your face.
What do you think would you feel?
Rage?
Anger?
Fear?

But what if that classmate/office mate would say, “You are pretty today.”
What do you think will you feel?
Happy?
Inspired?
Loved?

Again, it’s endless.

See how words can transform one simple day to a day full of happiness and love?
Or those same words can make you feel angry and fearful?

That is the power of words.
Words can work like a magic wand.
Just say something good and the person receiving it will feel good in an instant and just say something bad, they’d feel down and weary thereafter.

See how powerful you are?

When you choose your words properly, you’d also choose the power you’d put into your hands.

You have the power to encourage or discourage, motivate or degrade or invite or reject.

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Therefore, if you choose your words, you will also choose your own superpowers.

So, You Think You’ve Got No Superpowers?

Think Again. 🙂

Movie Suggestion: The Miracle Worker

What is this movie all about? And what makes this movie interesting?

This movie is an old movie that was recommended to me by my sister who is taking up BS in Education Major in Special Education. This is one of their assignments in school and just like her, I was moved by it.

This movie is about the story of Anne Sullivan and Helen Keller. Who wouldn’t know the tandem of those two most inspirational women of all time? I’ve been dying to read or watch a movie about them, especially Helen Keller because I want to know how did they become the two most talked about women in history.

At first, I thought that I will be moved by Helen but I was wrong. It was Anne Sullivan that has really touched my heart. Because of her patience, passion and dedication.

Teaching someone like Helen who is physically challenged was really difficult: physically exhausting and mind-blowing. A person like Helen needs a strong person to understand her and teach her the  things she needs to know about life. Through out the movie, Anne never treated Helen as a student but as her own child. She loved her more than any person could.

One thing I’ve learned, is the importance of discipline to a child. As parents, there are times when you want to indulge your children in every way or any thing that they want; to the point of spoiling them. I’ve realized that saying “no” to some of their “wants” may be the way for them to learn values that they have to know – patience, humility and respect to name a few.

Communication. This is the main gist of this movie. This is the key to a better relationship.

It seem’s like Helen is not the only one who should learn how to communicate.”

That is what Anne said to Helen’s bother and this has ignited his brother to speak up his mind and tell his parents what he really wants.

Anne Sullivan is indeed a Miracle Worker.

The Sweetest Vengeance

We all get hurt. People will come and go, others wouldn’t like you, you’ll get a broken heart and endless reasons to feel down and discouraged. Every single day can be a challenge for you to be happy and feel good.

But have you ever thought of getting back to those people who wronged you?

There is one sweet vengeance that I can recommend – A happy smile in a better you.

If someone has hurt you. Kill yourself – kill your old self and replace it with someone better that you were. Start creating a new you.

They say , ” The most painful events in one’s life, makes the biggest change.”

Changing yourself into the best person that you can be will be the biggest revenge that you can ever have. People will try to steal your smile on your face but don’t let them win. Let them be beaten by their own guilt and just get up, do your thing and be happy.

Always remember, Misery loves company. If someone makes you feel miserable, it means they are miserable themselves and they just needed a companion to be like them as well. So spare them. Never go down to their level and be the “you” that you had always been. Just let karma do its job. What goes around comes around.