Tired? Is it Good or Bad?

There are two types of tiredness – the good and the bad – Good Tired and Bad Tired. What type of tiredness do you have?

I have read this notion in one of the books I’ve read last year by John Izzo, The Five Secrets you Must Discover Before you Die.

We always feel tired at the end of day. After school, work or just because you did something that exhausts your energy – maybe after exercising or doing your household chores. Our body’s energy will get drained and would want a good night sleep to replenish all those lost physical power. But what is the difference of the two types of tiredness? Is it just based on how tired you are at the end of day or was it something to do with how we felt about that “tiredness”?

Before explaining what the good tired is, which I am not sure if it’s your current feeling right now, “Bad Tiredness” is much more relatable because more often than not, we would wake up at the wrong side of the bed – being motivated requires practice and if you are, you wouldn’t probably need this article because you are 100% sure that you fall under the “Good Tired” category.

What is Bad Tiredness?

Bad tired is when you are demotivated. When you felt undervalued and you totally do not want what you are doing. You are dragging yourself into doing what you do. You felt sick and your morale was at the rock bottom and you don’t have the idea to lift yourself up. It’s like you are stuck. The tiredness is more apparently felt on the outside (physical) because the inside of you is drained. Your inner drive is what’s telling you, “Hey, you are tired” and not your physical body instead.

The Good Tiredness on the other is the best feeling you could ever feel. No matter how your physical body says that you are tired, you seem to be stubborn not to follow through with it. You continue to do your job anyway. Good Tired is when you are motivated inside no matter how hard the situation is. You keep on pushing yourself.

What category are you currently at, right now?

Does this mean, being in the “Bad Tired” category means it’s the end of the world for you? Well, the good news is, it will never be too late. You maybe finding yourself in the dark side category however, you always have the option to dream and look forward to what you really think that can make you happy – your mind is your greatest asset. If you only set it the right way, then you will soon get that “good tiredness” that you want. But what do you need?

Sacrifice (for the mean time)Sometimes, you are in the bad side because you don’t know what to ask the universe. You are giving mixed signals of what you want. Remember, you must have focus. Ask yourself, what do you really want to pursue?

And attract the good omens and right people to help you out. 

You may be stuck right now to where you are, but if you have that goal mindset along with hardwork, then one by one you will get what you have dreamed about. That bad tiredness for now, is your hard work.

Being in the “Good Tiredness” category is not easy to be into. It requires persistence, tenacity to get your goal and one of the most important thing that we tend to undermine is, courage. Courage to fight for what we really like despite all the setbacks that we have in life.

Courage doesn’t mean being fearless; it’s about knowing what fear is, and doing it anyway.

So the questions I leave for you before you end reading this post is:
– Are you “Good Tired” or “Bad Tired”?
– If you belong to the “Good” then, you are on the right track, if you are not, what are you planning to do in order to be on the “Good” side?
(You have to be honest in answering this question, set aside what other people say and listen to what your heart says)

Start claiming that good side and let the universe work for you. Focus on your plans and goals. Never get distracted (keep going) and one day, you’d be surprised to be getting what you have dreamed about.

#HowToAdult Caravan By Francis Kong @ Ampitheater, UP Town Center

Thank you Mr. @franciskong for delivering a very powerful message about #howtoadult. My take away is to develop the power of discipline, (Intellectually, Emotionally, Physically, Financially and Spiritually). It's always a privilege to hear you talk about the success of one person the right way. May the Lord continuously bless you with wisdom and boldness to speak, Sir. Thank you for making this event possible, #thephilippinestar #metrobank #sunlife #avida "Discipline is delayed gratification"

First of all, this talk wouldn’t be made possible without the sponsors: Metrobank, Sun Life and Avida (with special participation of The Philippine Star and UP Town Center). We should be very thankful for your kindness by giving us the chance to listen and meet THE Francis Kong.

It has been a long time since I’ve been wishing to meet Francis Kong. I have not read any of his book but his page in Facebook has been trending for a while and I seemed to be so curious about him because of how positive he is and how many followers he has. If you are not yet one of them, please do so, for he’ll surely give you insights, inspiring words of wisdom and motivation – his niche (aside from being an entrepreneur/businessman). Seeing him in person and feeling his presence is very overwhelming and striking. He is such a charmer, a person of interest and a funny individual too – an icon as I’d say it.

He started his talk by introducing himself, his achievements and family – for sure, his pride and joy. He makes himself relatable by using the terms of this generation and no wonder, the millennials love him. He also looked like some Chinito celebrities like Jose Mari Chan, Richard Poon and Richard Yap which he jokingly started as an ice breaker. He surely knows how to grab the attention of his audience.

Let me also describe how he delivers his talk – ENGAGING. Something most speakers forget to dwell on nowadays. It has also nudged me into making my future classes more engaging and collaborative.

Once he has established the attention of his audience, he smoothly transitioned into the main menu of this event which is, How to be an Adult.

He started by citing an anecdote about high school reunions (yes, another attention grabbing scenario that everyone can relate) in which he’d set an eye-opener situation, in which your school’s former “cool dudes” before, can transform into a lame individual (after a few years) because of poor choices in their lives. How many times have we heard this story and we can never get tired of this?

“We are the products of the choices we make from day to day.”

Which leads me to my first take away:
Right Behavior, yields Right Outcome.  

He then smoothly transitioned (again) into questioning us with: “How can you build the right behavior in order to give you excellent results?” The answer is, DISCIPLINE.

In which, he explained that discipline means, “Delayed Gratification” and in our life, there are five areas that we need to be disciplined on:

  • Intellectual
  • Emotional
  • Physical
  • Financial
  • Spiritual

While he was explaining about the Physical Discipline, he invited a surprise guest speaker that he “ambushed” into talking for us – Mr. TJ Manotoc – high caliber host, sports anchor and just like everyone, has started as a dreamer as well.

My best take away from him is the importance of Confidence. That one characteristic of every winners and champions that he have met, is confidence. That every individual will have that phase of his life wherein he can be lost and wouldn’t know what to do. Just like everyone of us. Truly an inspiration as well, to the younger generation.

During that time, the rain started pouring and the night is ticking already; thus, the dark photos that you can see below. Nevertheless, the rain will not hinder us from learning more from Sir Francis.

The highlight for me, for this whole event is when Sir Francis started to lay out where you, as an individual should get your worth as a person. And this is the best take away for me.

“Don’t get your worth from what you have. It’s calledACQUISITION.
Don’t get your worth from what you do.  It’s calledACCOMPLISHMENTS.
Don’t get your worth from what you look.  It’s calledAPPEARANCE.
Don’t get your worth from what other people say.  It’s calledAPPROVAL.

Where should you get your worth?

Get your worth from what you are becoming.”

And that summarizes the whole two-hour event that I have attended, despite my lack of sleep (because of my nature of work). And for me, this is how a productive weekend look like.

Thank you Sir Francis for those words of wisdom. You are truly an inspiration. 🙂

Thank you for dropping by and I hope you also had your own take aways from this blog post.

Remember, Get your worth from what you are becoming.

Blank

I had to deep breathe and search inside my head for something exciting to write about. It was dull. Black and white. Nothing to say, nothing to preach.

After work, for the last three months I think, I’d find myself staring blankly with nothing in mind. Not the usual overthinking me. It’s as if, I just want to shut down and just be free from anything. Feel myself and my heart beat.

What I’d search in youtube? Not the Ted talk I used to, but some operating room surgery – pimple popping videos or anything that doesn’t require thinking – just watching.

I don’t know if this is healthy or not but for sometime, I’m nothing but my work and my advocacy to make my line of business successful. It has been my life. Even my dreams would be composed of my work stuff ; and sadly, I never got annoyed with it.

Maybe, I’ve placed my heart and soul into it, thinking it was my own company that I run. Sometimes, I open my office’ door and think, I will have a company like this. (Just weird things I’ve thought about. Something random).

My passion right now, is not only to write and read, just like before. Passion do also evolve. (Good to know!) Just like self discovery and Learning. It never ceases. It changes, time after time and you must find yourself up to date all the time. My passion right now, is facing challenges with dignity. Sometimes, I think I’m unstoppable. Thank you, to all the struggles I have faced these days. I am maturing professionally and I like it. Maybe, the more problems I get to encounter and resolve, the better I’d become in the future.

It’s still not making sense right now and I have multiple unanswered questions in my head too.

But what can I do? I submit to what my heart truly desires and leave it all up to the author of my life. What I can promise Him is, in everything that I do, I’d do out of love and with His guidance, I know I can conquer anything.

So help me, God.

This is my ephemeral outburst 02/16/2016 😊
The feelings ain’t apathy anymore. It’s the burning desire and belief, that we can make it through the rain. It’s as if, success is within our reach. 😱😊

Another Maybe – Not

Weird it is for people to come inside my life and go instantly – JUST LIKE THAT. Ages ago, goodbyes hurt so much, thinking it was solely my fault (Well, it still does but not as much as before). At some point, I’d still ask myself, was it really me who is at fault? Or is it just not meant to last? That, their role in my life is over and I just need to move on?

This ain’t only about love but so as friendship. They say, nothing is forever but why does it come to you like a lifetime of agony and a repeated cycle, to be endured over and over again? Do I really have to get used to it and just move on, one heartbreak after another?

I think the answer is yes, but why does it seem to be so constant, that every person I meet, is expected to go and just leave me behind? Was it because I’ve empowered them to become better and use their folded wings behind them? Do I really intimidate them that much? Or was I too strong and opinionated to be handled? Am I being too authentic, early on?

I’m ain’t a victim here because it’s not like I don’t know how to adapt to changes, because I do. However, because of too much adaptability, sometimes, when I think they are drifting away, it seems to be expected and made me look like, I expect crap from people, which I know, shouldn’t be; for I always believe, there is someone out there that will last and will stay.

I just stare somewhere and think about them, those that had been my “maybe’s” that never became that somebody, hoping that someday, I can ask them this question, “What happened?”.

This is my ephemeral outburst 02/17/2016

That Last Election

Three weeks after that, not so social media friendly election, we are back to our normal lives. Somehow, I have witnessed a few number of presidential elections in the past and this by far is the most controversial one – I think. I’m never a political analyst of some sort and I am a normal Filipino citizen but the blast of that election has been felt all over the social networking sites.

How many of us have had a heated conversation/s with our friends or family members because of our differences in what we believe is “right”? How many of us unfriend-ed some people  in our friend list because of too much posts, status and opinions related to politics and elections? How many friendship has been tested?

It has been a very long 3 months of campaign period and if there is one things I learned from that last election, it is Respect.

That each one of us wanted to be heard and not all people are mature enough to understand the simple fact that we are all different from each other. I realize that no matter how close you are to anybody (your best friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, mother, sister, father etc), you can have two opposing beliefs that can test your relationship especially if one won’t be sensitive enough, towards other people’s feelings.

That you will never be able to impose anything to anybody. No matter how hard you try. You can convince them of your points, but you will never change their minds just like that.

It was then that I realize how different we really are and how unique one can think. Some bizarre, unjustifiable and some, have passionate love towards their candidates. It’s awesome to think that I get to experience that last election. It was the first time that I get to see myself so involved and even up until now when it’s all over and done, I see myself reading some write ups that I don’t usually read before (things that never really interest me, until now) – cabinet members, election proclamation, current events etc.

I’m not sure if it’s because we, the millennials are starting to be involved or was it our time to shine, because we were once the kids that has now grown up to finally fulfill the promise that “A nations’ hope is their children”.