I’ve Waited Long For This

Have you ever prayed for something before and it started to materialize one by one?
That it was just a thought 4 years ago and has now become a reality?

“Be careful what you wish for ‘coz you might just get it”

Yes, you have to be careful with what you wish for because we’d never know if we can get it or not. But what would you feel if it wasn’t the way you thought it was?

It’s presented with a lot of problems.
Unstable.
Stressful.
Unhappy.

and everything you thought was just assumptions?

How would you react to it?

Absurd isn’t?

Would you still like to stay for it? or would you be fixing the problem that you get along the way?

Imagine yourself wishing and longing for love. You thought it was all roses; that thorns were out of the picture. But when you finally knew what love is, it was a vein of thorns that has a rose on it.

But remember, it was still the place that you once prayed for.

Would you still fight for it?

Those thorns that will prick you along the way were the hindrances and challenges that will let you question your dream. If you really want it, you will accept every flaw that it has shown you. Love (and life) has always been like that. It will never give you a bed roses without thorns on it. Life will always find reason to challenge you and so with your dreams. If you really want it, no matter what it takes, you will fight for it. it’s life way of asking you,

How much do you really want to have it?
Are you going to accept everything about it even the inconveniences it’ll give you?
Will you continue to love it even though you’ve seen and felt its flaws?

Life has its own way of challenging you. the question is, “Are you willing to accept the challenges it beholds, for you to get what you have always dreamed of?”

Be the Problem Solver: One Problem At A Time

Our world has never been perfect. We always see ourselves in the middle of a battle – whether it be with ourselves or with other people. Unfortunately, this world never ran out of problems – at home, at work, with friends, with loved ones, with acquaintances and with every person we’d meet along the way. But hey, there’s good news..

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Photo grabbed from:
The Soul Purpose Project

Start becoming a problem solver: One problem at a time.
How do you become a problem solver?
Start from your own self. Resolve inner conflict with yourself. Learn to forgive oneself on things you didn’t do and the bad things you’ve committed. Start looking at the mirror and admire the person you are seeing. Resolve the things you hate about yourself. Work on it.
Laziness? Get up and just put yourself out there.
Procrastinating? Start getting things done.
After yourself, start resolving your conflict at home – with your wife, partner, mother, parents, sibling, then with your co workers, neighbors, community and so on.
Start with baby steps.
Start with small goals and every day, create new ones.
A compilation of small acts of kindness will overwhelm the world.

It’s the small things that matters.
A single act of kindness is better than the grandest intention.

Start small and end big. You’ll never know how many problems will you solve if you won’t try something you have never encountered.

Problems will always be part of life – learn to deal with it; otherwise, you’ll just end up wishing and hoping you did.

Confidence Too, Must Be Practiced

When talking in front of people is your job,  they’d always think you were confident all the time; that you never shake in front of them or you never felt scared. Some of them would also think that it’s all natural for you.

Maybe for some, but definitely not for all.

Shaking voice, mental block, sweaty palms and looking stupid. This is how I’d looked like every time I’d talk in front of people some time ago. Sure, there’d be times when I can compose myself and I’d be able to give a good speech. I know I have command presence but somehow, talking with an audience shivers me. I had inferiority complex and I was so scared of criticism. I hated the fact that I’d be scrutinized from head to foot, from the way I’d sway my hand and the way I’d flip my hair. They thought I’d just do that with a breeze. But at the bottom of my heart, I was always scared. Scared that I wouldn’t be able to deliver what they’d expect; scared to be exposed and every time I’d stand in front of everybody, I felt like a naked person being observed by everyone.

I’d still feel those nerves until now. But every time I felt that, I would always think, there is something wrong and would make me think “How can I use my full potential if I continue to be scared?”

“Everything you want is behind your fears.”

The time I decided not to fear public speaking was the time I changed my entire life. In total, I have had only around 7 classes with 25 people as the largest group and 8 as the least, but at the end of every class I’ve had, there is one thing I’d always feel inside of me that seems to be very addicting – fulfillment.

To touch lives is what I’ve always dreamed of. To be at least of a good influence to people and to give them a part of me that has always wanted to come out of me. But do you think confidence is innate with me and I never worked hard to attain it?

The answer was NO. In every class, I have to do a “ritual” of positive thinking and gathering all my confidence before I can stand in front of people (especially on the first day of class. That was the most horrifying of all).

The more you practice your confidence by conquering your fears, the more confident you become every time. As what they say, confidence is like a muscle, you have to exercise and use it, or else, it will just atrophy and your muscle can die.

The more you let go of your inhibitions, the better you are becoming. I never thought that an introvert like me can speak up and finally get out of the shell. The beginning will always be the hardest. Only until you finally master how to do it without even trying; you’d be surprised, it’s as if it has always been there.

Fake it till you make it –  as what they say.
Allow yourself to become a beginner because every expert started from that point too.

The more you practice confidence, the more it’ll imbibe in you and soon, you’ll see yourself confident enough to be who you are in front of everybody without thinking of what they think.

Practice may not make you perfect but it’ll make you become better. Remember, we are all a work in progress.

Born for Greatness

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Reminder for everyone!

You are born to Standout!

Be not afraid of greatness. Some are born great! Some achieve greatness. Some have greatness thrust upon them. – William Shakespeare

That Fearful Walk

Around a year ago, my then office mates went to Philipp’s Sanctuary in Antipolo City (Philippines) for our team building, it must have been an ordinary time for them but not for me.

The Log Walk

I don’t know how to swim and I don’t know how to cross that log.
It was one of my most unforgettable feeling in my whole life (as of today).

Some may think I exaggerate because the river doesn’t seem to be so deep and looks just ordinary.
But during that time, I was so damn SCARED.
My legs was shaking as I was walking towards the middle part.

I initially thought I can do it without any hardship but as I move towards the least supported part which is the middle area, the log started to shake and so am I.

I was so nervous and I was trying to shrug my fear by shouting, thinking I can release it through my voice but of course, it was no use.
I was in the middle of a shaking log, in the center of a lagoon (I don’t know how deep the water is) without any support and I know, right then and there,  I can die.
As I’ve said, I don’t know how to swim and though I have a life vest with me, I still don’t want to give in and I’m so determined to cross that shit.

One by one.
One little step at a time.
Shake after shake.
Heartbeat after heartbeat.

Yes, I was scared, I fear the unknown and at the same time, I hate NOT to FINISH that road.
I’m so sure I can do it but that time, I almost gave up and just drown myself in the river.

But, to make the long story short, I did it!
After a grueling 20 minutes, (my estimate) that seemed like a lifetime for me, I was able to finish it and cross the other line.
Yes, I found victory.

Fast forward to this year, I still can’t forget that same feeling because somehow that is how I face my life.
Though I have the confidence that I can face any challenge that life has to offer me, towards the middle, I was shaken , lost all hope and I can say that sometimes, I want to give up and submit myself to failure.

But, somehow, as much as I could, I’ll try to get what I want and just wanted to get those things done.

Combating fear.
It has never been easy.
Nevertheless, in the end, it’s just so worth it.