Hitting a Plateau?

Who among you felt like plateauing in life?

What is a Plateau?

It’s when you thought you have nothing more to offer. When you thought that you’ve got all that you want and you cease to grow because you were at “that” stage when you have gotten what you’ve dreamed of.

This is one of the most dangerous part of life. When you close your minds to more possibilities because you thought, you’ve got it all and you don’t have that big of a lid that will encompass a much bigger scope of influence and dream. Sometimes, it’s fear that is constantly feeding that kind of mindset (which can be another story).

I once dreamed of becoming a better version of myself. I think everyone does. But what will stop you from dreaming? When you’d finally gotten into the top of “your” hill? When you think you have nothing more to learn because you thought you had been the best?

My goodness! what a mindset.

I also fell into that trap of thinking. Maybe because I have read plenty of books and I thought I was on top of my game. But then, who said, there is an ending to all possibilities in this world? Who said that you should stop dreaming when you’ve finally been into your destination?

I tell you, there will always be a room for improvement. We never stop learning and our life is a never ending journey of reflection and continuous growth.

In times when you are plateauing and you do not know where to go, remember that there will always be a much better service that you can offer. You never cease to look for something more. Something bigger that you have right now. It’s human nature to look for something more. If you stop looking for more, your mind will rot and will start creating a bunch of excuses not to dream more and do more. When you stop, you’d feel lost (again) and defeated.

Inaction – doing nothing about a situation strengthen fear and destroys confidence.
– The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

Don’t be fooled though. I am not talking about monetary increase or growth. Or life milestone. I am talking about the value that you give to others. What more can you give? What are the weaknesses that you need to enrich to be at your full potential?

Watch your words during these times of your life. Most of the time, this is when you are so dangerous because not only can you trick your mind into nonsense excuses but, you can also influence others to be at that mindset. Which will then add to the negativity in this world. A very crucial part of life I should say.

I realize how important it is to dream. To look for something more and becoming more than you are right now. You never stop and you never quit. Also, let me end this post with an excerpt from a poem that held so much meaning in my life.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won if he’d stuck it out,
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow,
You might succeed with another blow.

Often the struggler has given up,
When he might captured the victor’s cup.
And he learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown,

It may be near when it seems afar,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit,
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.

Don’t Quit by Edgar A. Guest

Blank

I had to deep breathe and search inside my head for something exciting to write about. It was dull. Black and white. Nothing to say, nothing to preach.

After work, for the last three months I think, I’d find myself staring blankly with nothing in mind. Not the usual overthinking me. It’s as if, I just want to shut down and just be free from anything. Feel myself and my heart beat.

What I’d search in youtube? Not the Ted talk I used to, but some operating room surgery – pimple popping videos or anything that doesn’t require thinking – just watching.

I don’t know if this is healthy or not but for sometime, I’m nothing but my work and my advocacy to make my line of business successful. It has been my life. Even my dreams would be composed of my work stuff ; and sadly, I never got annoyed with it.

Maybe, I’ve placed my heart and soul into it, thinking it was my own company that I run. Sometimes, I open my office’ door and think, I will have a company like this. (Just weird things I’ve thought about. Something random).

My passion right now, is not only to write and read, just like before. Passion do also evolve. (Good to know!) Just like self discovery and Learning. It never ceases. It changes, time after time and you must find yourself up to date all the time. My passion right now, is facing challenges with dignity. Sometimes, I think I’m unstoppable. Thank you, to all the struggles I have faced these days. I am maturing professionally and I like it. Maybe, the more problems I get to encounter and resolve, the better I’d become in the future.

It’s still not making sense right now and I have multiple unanswered questions in my head too.

But what can I do? I submit to what my heart truly desires and leave it all up to the author of my life. What I can promise Him is, in everything that I do, I’d do out of love and with His guidance, I know I can conquer anything.

So help me, God.

This is my ephemeral outburst 02/16/2016 😊
The feelings ain’t apathy anymore. It’s the burning desire and belief, that we can make it through the rain. It’s as if, success is within our reach. 😱😊

Another Maybe – Not

Weird it is for people to come inside my life and go instantly – JUST LIKE THAT. Ages ago, goodbyes hurt so much, thinking it was solely my fault (Well, it still does but not as much as before). At some point, I’d still ask myself, was it really me who is at fault? Or is it just not meant to last? That, their role in my life is over and I just need to move on?

This ain’t only about love but so as friendship. They say, nothing is forever but why does it come to you like a lifetime of agony and a repeated cycle, to be endured over and over again? Do I really have to get used to it and just move on, one heartbreak after another?

I think the answer is yes, but why does it seem to be so constant, that every person I meet, is expected to go and just leave me behind? Was it because I’ve empowered them to become better and use their folded wings behind them? Do I really intimidate them that much? Or was I too strong and opinionated to be handled? Am I being too authentic, early on?

I’m ain’t a victim here because it’s not like I don’t know how to adapt to changes, because I do. However, because of too much adaptability, sometimes, when I think they are drifting away, it seems to be expected and made me look like, I expect crap from people, which I know, shouldn’t be; for I always believe, there is someone out there that will last and will stay.

I just stare somewhere and think about them, those that had been my “maybe’s” that never became that somebody, hoping that someday, I can ask them this question, “What happened?”.

This is my ephemeral outburst 02/17/2016

How “Single” Should Look Like

“If you were saved from a relationshit, then you should learn to appreciate it.”

Not that I am being very cynical about your reasons of being single, but at some point, there was a reason why you are single. Maybe for days, months and for some – years.

When you are in a middle of a broken heart, whether it’s a good break up or not, you’d (at some point) cry for awhile, would think what went wrong and would utter prayers such as “Why?”.

Break up is one of the most tear jerking moments of your life, thinking it has no end. That the pain inside is unlimited, that you won’t know where to start – a life that might have died, even while still in the relationship.

For me, though being in a relationship is good and satisfying, it is during my single hood that I became a better person. The time when I explore the side of me, I never knew and the moment I get to experience a life, I know, that will change and be different, once I’d settle into a relationship.

Single life is also a gift. A gift that was wrapped in a mirror – it reflects what’s in its environment – adapting what surrounds it and you have to look at it and appreciate your own reflection first, before you get to open and appreciate what’s within.

Some people dreaded this gift because it can cause some hurt in their eyes when they look at it because sometimes, it reflects the sunlight.

Some wouldn’t like this gift because they don’t like what they see when they look at it – their own reflection.

There is something weird in this gift because of how it looks like. When it’s in a dark room, it’ll also look dark to the point of not even noticing it. It sort of camouflages and adapts to it’s environment.

On the other hand, when surrounded by a sunny garden, flowers and beautiful things, it does shows that lively spirit too. When you put your single hood gift in an energy of positivity, that is what you’d also gain from it. If you dwell on things otherwise, you’d also get that negative vibes.

Being single should be experienced in a passionate manner too. I never thought one can be passionate with life without their other half. I can’t help but remember a Youtube video entitled, “When the missing piece, meets the big, O”.

 You have to know how to roll on your own and be that “complete” being, to be able to appreciate this gift.

But, the question here is, how?

By choosing yourself, over and over again. 

When you are single, you never stop dating, going to places and meet new people. And when you stumble upon someone that can guarantee confusion and complications in the long run, learn to choose your own happiness over the idea of just being in a relationship, just to satisfy your longing to having a partner – even if it’s less than what you’ve dreamed about. The “good” will always be the “best”‘s rival in your life.

Being single entitles you to be strong, amidst those temptations and you should choose yourself (and also your future) again and again. A future that you have embedded in your mind. A standard that you’ve settled for yourself.

Waiting for the right time is as crucial too as accepting this gift because patience is something that is incorporated in this gift.

People would sometimes forget to savor the moment and would jump into another relationship without really appreciating and enjoying this gift of single hood.

I’m not saying that someone should wait for a lifetime, like the story of Love Rosie by Cecelia Ahern type of waiting but just enough when you know and have uttered, “Yes, this is what I want and I am choosing this life.”

At times it can be a detour, that entails getting lost along the way. Uncertainty can also blur your mind into something you thought was nice, but wasn’t. Sometimes, you can be blinded – Salt looks a lot like sugar too and not all glittery are gold.

Being single must be perceived as a gift and not as a curse. Get to learn from it, savor every minute of it and become that one whole piece of gold that will be sought after by a lot of people. Not because of your glitter but because of your soul and who you really are as a person. This is the time of your life when you will be in connection with your inner self and not all people were given this chance of a lifetime.

Ramblings of a People-Pleaser

“Libra’s are kind but some people construed it as their weakness”

Is being kind considered a weakness?
That is the question I keep asking myself. They’d say, fake it ’till you make it. But no matter how I feign sarcasm and rudeness just to conceal my total kindness; somehow, it has been a total fail. I can appear snob or indifferent for the first few hours you’d know me but after that “getting to know you” stage, I’d be all smiles and that natural kindness would come out.

Sometimes, I also hate myself from being too nice. Most of the time, I’d consider other people’s feelings more than mine. This kindness will eventually become a weakness if I’d meet a person who wouldn’t consider my feelings because I have allowed them to take mine (feelings) for granted. So far, I had been lucky enough to finally identify those people and when I do, all I have to do is make a detour and snob them as much as I can ( I just don’t want it to be so obvious so as not yo hurt their feelings; see, I still have the knack to think about how’d they’d feel even though I know, they really don’t care about mine.) They’d say, I am a people-pleaser whereas, I know in my heart I just don’t want chaos and I never want anybody to feel bad because of me.

 Sometimes, I think I have high EQ (Emotional Quotient) or I am just too naive and gullible at times.

I don’t get mad easily but when I do, it’ll stay for weeks, months and years. I had a hard time moving on and I keep grudges. That’s why I don’t want to get mad at anybody. For me, it’s like a glass – once broken, it’ll never be the same like before. Not that I don’t forgive, because I do, but I never forget. And that’s the real reason why I don’t want to hurt anybody’s feeling. I don’t want a mark in my forehead that says, “She hurt me before, and she might hurt me again.”

Being a people-please has its own perils too. Like delivering bad news. I am never good at playing the bad cop. Being the optimist also has a bad side. Sometimes, I am inside my personal bubble where it’s always sunny and no rainy days. It’s the stars that I see in every darkness and it’s always the half full one. But sometimes, I would also ask, does that mean I am not facing reality?

Is it really a sin to become a people-pleaser when all you want is peace from all sides and angles of the situation? Is it really hard to maintain balance in this world?

At the end of the day, this is the best me I want to be become.

Be Strong, but not rude.
Be kind, but not weak.
Be bold, but not bully.
Be humble, but not shy.
Be confident, but not arrogant.

I want to meet her soon.