What is Your Love Language?

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This is what will appear if you try to search for the meaning of language in Google.

On the other hand, communicating through love is a different story but follows the same concept of language.

If you have studied linguistics, you’d definitely be familiar with dialects. It is a form of language that is peculiar to a specific region or social group. And just like language, love has its own dialect and we must learn to unveil each person’s love dialect, for us to understand how each person show their love.

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We don’t really have to know a person thoroughly just so we can understand each other. We only need to know their love language.

However, you must know what is your own language first before trying to know other’s language, so as to understand each other’s differences and we can start from there.

I went to this site a few weeks ago and tried their love language test. And I want you to take the test too.

You’d be surprised with the results.  (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/)

As you can see in the site, there are 5 different language of love that all of us has.

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We usually can show and give love through words, time, service, gifts and touch. Those are the 5 Love dialects that we have to know. One by one.

Here’s my personal story.

My father is a very sweet person. He usually kisses us, hugs us and would always say “I Love You” every single day. Our day won’t be complete without those sweet words.

When I lived independently for almost 2 years, he would always text me goodnight and cute messages. He is such a good communicator and has always been so charismatic. My friends usually go to our house before and find themselves enthralled with my father’s never-ending stories and chit chats. He is a people-person. He can easily gather new friends and really loves to talk and talk.

On the contrary,my mom is a bit stern and stiff (someone much more like me). She doesn’t talk that much, she is quiet, she nags but not as much as others do. She doesn’t kisses and hugs us as much as my dad.

Papa would say “I Love You!” in a crowd without hesitation, but my mother won’t.

She isn’t as expressive as my father.

But, this is how we know she loves us:

She cooks for us, do our laundry, packs our school lunch, clean our house and she always make sure that we have uniform to wear the next school day. She is our house manager.

She makes things done and will do everything to make things in order.

They have different love language.

They express their love differently.

My father’s primary love language is words of affirmation.

While my mom’s most evident language is service.

What we usually give is also the same things that we also wanted to receive.

If we love words, then, most likely, that is also how we want our partner to give us. But, what if you’re partner’s love language is service just like my mom?

Do you expect them to say “I Love You” all the time as much as you want them to?

That is where understanding comes in. 

When you know the other person’s love language, you will know they say “I Love You” even if they don’t actually say so.

I once had a relationship with a gift giver. He used to pamper me with gifts every now and then, but doesn’t do sweet gestures and give me time as much as I expect him to. I thought of it as his “spoiling tactics”  and I thought, “he is buying me” because of those gifts and material things.

I haven’t heard of love language before and soon, because we can’t understand each other’s love language we broke up.

We all have different love language and therefore when talking about love, we speak differently, thus breeds misunderstandings.

It may just be a small gift for you, but for them, that is their way of communicating their love.

You might think that it’s just an ordinary “chore” that she/he did for you (example: washing the dishes or your clothes) but for them, it means “I Love You”.

Be sensitive with other’s ways of showing love so, you can understand what they are trying to imply.

They may be doing things differently but for them, they only mean “I Love You.”

PS: To know more about love language, Go to this site and just like me, you’d love it. ~!~