Your Dream: If They Don’t Approve it, Elope with it

One thing I have learned as I get older: A lot of people will meddle with your life whether you like it or not.

Sometimes, they can also give you “false hopes” and “broken promises” as well.

Since they are “much older” or “much experienced”, we, the “neophyte” of life were expected to listen to them.

But, the sad part is, sometimes, those were just their mere opinions and we are not to subject ourselves, towards what they say or sometimes, imply.

Sometimes, we have to listen to what is in our hearts and fight for it.

However, people around you will always have never ending opinions that can sometimes help you become better, but most of the time, it won’t.

They judge you with what is superficial and never dig deep into details before creating one.

Most of the time, they’ll underestimate your capabilities and later, these can let you down.

Their nasty opinions overshadows what is really in your heart and what you truly want.

And this is because of society’s rules and standard that is sometimes just a product of pride and ego.

Sample scenario:

Both mother and father are both doctors and they wanted their kids to become like them as well: To become a professional doctor. But, what if their kids don’t want to be inclined in the medical field  and instead, be in the music field, or they’re an artist by heart or they just simple don’t want what their parents like for them.

Questions for the parents: 

Do they have to comply with the society’s expectations towards them having a son or daughter that will follow their foot steps?

Question for the kids:

Do they have to follow what their parents want them to become and abandon their own dreams?

As I was writing this, I can’t help but remember the movie, “The Vow” (with Rachelle McAdams and Channing Tatum as the lead actors). Paige (McAdams) was a daughter of lawyer and has studied law and is already about to graduate, but opted to stay and elope with Leo (Tatum) and be the artist that she has ever wanted to be.

At the end of the day, it will still be about our happiness and what our heart truly desires.

Each of us has our own dreams and whether or not it would pass the society’s standard of “What should be” or not, this dream will be our driving force to live our lives.

Sometimes, the more we comply with the society’s standard, the more time we waste and the more things we regret.

As what in the poem Invictus says. “I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.” Be the own pilot of your life.

If others don’t approve of your dreams, ELOPE with it.